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Say what you need to say.

October 23, 2009

This week, I was given a diatribe of 50 one liners meant to be positive and upbeat.  Instead it all just came off as elitist, privileged bullshit.  The paper was handed out to boost the spirits of me and my coworkers  in the wake of an announcement that we may lose our jobs.  I believe in hope and perserverance.  But I also believe in keeping the shit short –being honest and straightforward.  And, really, I just wish that everyone could be bothered to do that, about everything. Sentences like, ‘I think you’re an asshole.’ ‘I don’t like you.’ ‘I think you’re stupid.’ ‘I just can’t stand you.’ ‘What’s your problem?’ ‘Stop being a douchebag.’ Instead, people, myself included, go around backs and whisper.  This is the way we were raised.  ‘If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say it all.’  ‘Be nice.’  ‘Kill them with kindness.’  ‘Keep the peace.’  ‘Don’t rock the boat.’ And my favorite, ‘SMILE.’   Well, I’m sorry.  Life isn’t always sunshine and roses.  Sometimes it gets messy.  Sometimes people piss you off.  And sometimes misunderstandings occur.  If you have something to say, just say it.  If I’m going to lose my job in 30 days, just f’ing say it.  If you have a problem with me, get in my face, and SAY IT.  Again, maybe it’s because we’ve all been raised to be polite, to keep calm, and told ‘no fighting.’  But, I just don’t see this as a good strategy.  Being nonconfrontational just stresses everyone out and things blow up or just fall apart.  Shouldn’t we all just deal with it?  Gossiping about it, or even worse,tattletelling, is not solving any problem.   Just DEAL WITH IT.

Obviously, I’m going through some tough times right now.  Including some past problems that have reared their ugly heads.  But, really, I’m just tired of the social structures that we operate by.  I feel like I have 500 hamsters running overtime on their wheels in my head.  And, I just want it all to stop.


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